Well we went to see the paediatrician on Tuesday and he doesn't deal in behavioural problems but from what I told him he seems to think he has Oppositional Defiance Disorder, hmmm now after getting a bit more information on this from my good friend "Google" I find out that this could be almost any child!!!!
But he also said to me that I am partly to blame for this behaviour (see its always the mothers fault) because I let him push my buttons and although he is only 8 he knows exactly which ones to push the most to make me react. So the doctor tells me that when this happens next time I have to think there is a pause button in my head and hit pause.
So far we have been incident free its is quite amazing that he has actually been behaving himself and I feel like I am on valium as I am trying to take a much more relaxed view on things. I know its only early days but now we have to go see a psychologist, and to get into one of them is a three month waiting period because of the lack of them in the area, its that or go to Sydney and I am not up for a 3 hour drive.
I feel terrible that I could be responsible for this and I am hoping that by changing my ways hopefully I can make him be the good boy that I know he can be, see that's what I told the doctor he has a great heart and lovely nature when he wants to and alot of people tell me that. The thing that he has trouble with is when someone else is getting more attention he does something naughty to make them notice him and the thing is I know that children do that also especially when in a larger family.
The main thing is we are starting afresh and its not something that he is not going to be able to change I was worried he may need medication for his behaviour but he doesn't so its just a daily thing and we'll manage.